Relationships
Who matters to you and where things stand. The room with the strictest gate, because most of what's in it is about other people.
What is it?
Your people, captured: who they are, how you met, what you've talked about, what they care about, what you owe each other, important dates, where the relationship stands. Kept over years, this becomes one of the most valuable things you own: a living record of your actual life with the people in it.
Why store it?
Memory fails exactly when relationships need it. The friend's kid's name. The thing they told you last time that you should ask about. Who introduced you to whom. Stored relationship context lets your own agents brief you before a call, remember every follow-up, notice who you've drifted from, and draft the birthday message that sounds like you actually remember, because you do; it's written down.
What does a service legitimately need?
Very little, and almost always in aggregate or single-purpose form. A gift-recommendation service needs one person's interests, never your whole address book. A scheduling agent needs availability relationships, never emotional ones. An event service might need a count of who you'd invite, never the histories. This room mostly serves your own agents inside the castle; the slivers that leave are tiny and single-use.
What never leaves home?
Almost everything, because this room carries a double duty of care: it is your context about other people who never consented to being shared. Conversation histories, private situations, your candid read on someone, health or family matters they told you in confidence. The protocol's minimal disclosure tenet binds twice here: once for you, once for them.
Further Reading
- The Protocol: minimal disclosure and purpose-bound use.
- Inner Life: where your own side of the tender material lives.